Forever Changing

The mother’s touch

Gentle, kind, correcting

Doing it all, doing it right

Super mom is a label that many take on.

To be selfless and giving, always showing the way

To make it all work: the schedules, making the wounds feel better, feeding and clothing, standing up for the hurt and wounded, watching over, paving the way

How long can you take it one may ask?

Some of us need an excuse of sorts to take time for them… no time for that.

Identity morphing, hiding and withering

Until one day you look back and realize that YOU are nowhere to be seen.

How can I handle the chaos of life without losing myself in the masks and titles?

This week I became the “mother-of- the-bride” what a title…

I have been having such a struggle with it. Even though there has been months of preparation and warnings. “Mother-in-law” does not bother me and not even “Grandmother”…

This title or label is another one of these gentle reminders that my body is ready to heal, ready to move on. We have many warnings in our lives that give us the opportunity to move past these walls.

Do I need to always hold on to this struggle? Will I ever get past the way I feel when I hear someone call me mother-of-the-bride? As I sit here and ask myself this question I am feeling yucky and stuck.

Our world is full of titles. Some we fit into easily, some we resent and some take over and consume us and others we reject… We also have many experiences in our lives that shape our view on titles and words around us. How do we navigate??

In the past I have had many of these sticky situations. I have often called a friend, my sister, my sister-in-law or my mom. They help me feel better for that day, but a lot of times the same pattern of struggle pops up again and again. Recently instead of the repetitive pattern I have found permanent relief from these sticky situations. That doesn’t mean I don’t come across the stickiness or emotional overreactions. It just means instead of fighting the same battles over and over again I am finding new battles, feeling less stressed, having less pain and having less anxiety moments.

So as I go to see where this opportunity takes me I get to have a closer look of who I am without the warped viewpoint about “mother-of-the-bride.

My Epic Journey... Kari

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